Does it always have to be this way?

Do you have to have it so rough before you can realize how good it can be? This is what I have been asking myself over the past two years. I hate to start this blog this way, but oh well, this is what is on my mind as of late.

I will have to get into the whole story eventually, but for right now today's thoughts. WTF? Before I get to tell you about my current life, I have to start with the old life. My ex-wife drives me freakin' nuts. I can't get past the fact that while I was courting and eventually marrying this woman that I thought she was an adult. As a matter of fact, I thought she was much more mature than I was myself. She certainly tried to portray that. Well I got rooked. So I requested a refund, but it hasn't quite came in the mail yet.

As part of the divorce agreement, I self imposed the following:

1. To payoff a 2002 Jeep Liberty that was in both of our names. About $15,000 remained, but it was only fair as we paid off my '99 BMW with the sale of our townhome.
2. Two years alimony of $500 per month to help her get off the ground on her own. I made a bit more than her so again, only fair.
3. Paid half of my current assets which was about another $10,000.

Again all of which was self-imposed as my divorce attorney begged me to just not offer anything and fight for everything that I deserved. My thought then were how does she know what i deserve or not. I know she was being paid to look out for my best interests, but I was really just paying her to create a document that I was able to create as effectively as hers (this is a whole different story which we won't get into right now).

So I did my part, all of which by now has been completed. The only thing she has to do is take the released title, with my signature on the back, and transfer the vehicle into just her name. Simple enough, and hey it's free.

To sum up this story quickly, it has been a year and a half. She has yet to make the simple trip to the MVA. The vehicle currently has three suspensions attached to it. One for failure to comply to emissions. One for failure to complete a State Police ordered repair order. One for failure to prove insurance was kept on the vehicle. I guess this doesn't quite sum it up because this isn't the first time.

Twice during our marriage she had $2000 in parking tickets (the bulk being the penalties) which once I found the hidden warning notices took care of. About 6 months ago I had to renew my BMW. I couldn't as there was $3000 outstanding MVA fines. $1500 wa sa penalty for not having insurance. Yes, I know, it would have been cheaper to carry insurance right?!? She paid that, wiping the slate clean with my alimony funds. Perfect time to go and complete the transfer right? Well, not for the less than responsible ex.

Now over the past 6 months the previously mentioned has taken place and we are back up to thousands. At the time of this writing the tickets have been paid $815. However, the repair order, proof of insurance and emissions violations remain.

If anyone sees a 2002 Jeep Liberty running around Maryland with a guy running behind it crying like a little girl, stop me to say hello, it would be great to meet you!